We have to admit, when it comes to love, we tend to have rose-tinted-glasses. But, every once in a while, we are reminded that love takes a little work too. Before you tie the knot (for the rest of your life!), make sure you have covered everything important. Have these discussions before the big day and remember to be honest now even if you are afraid of deal breakers!
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Five year from now, do you want to be in the same job, home, town? Do you want kids? If so, how many? These might not be questions you know the answer to right now, but you may already know what you don’t want. Again, these can be deal-breakers for some but knowing beforehand can leave plenty of room for compromise. Compromise is another vital part of any relationship, so consider that your goals may need to be put on hold for the one you love.
“What if” Situations
Although it might not be a pleasant thought, you will need to know what to do in those “what if” situations (what if one of you gets sick or is in an accident etc). These questions may be daunting and sad to mull over, but are important for “just in case” scenarios. Marriage doesn’t just guarantee that you will have a companion for life, it also means that you will have a shared responsibility for the other person.
Money is never a comfortable topic, but make it clear what you both have in terms of assets and loans. Since these will be more or less shared once you marry, this will affect you future purchases and loan applications made together. This means going over any mortgages, student loans, savings, credit card debt, taxes, pay slips – everything! Debt may not be a good reason not to marry your loved one, but you will need to know how to plan for the future too.